Dear Parents, following the tragic news of yet another school shooting earlier this week, you may find yourself looking for a way to talk with your child(ren) about this specific situation and school safety in general. The National Child Traumatic Stress Network offers these tips:

  • Start the conversation . Talk about the shooting with your child. Not talking about it can make the event even more threatening in your child’s mind. Silence suggests that what has occurred is too horrible even to speak about or that you do not know what has happened. With social media (e.g., Facebook, Twitter, text messages, newsbreaks on favorite radio and TV stations, and others), it is highly unlikely that children and teenagers have not heard about this. Chances are your child has heard about it, too.

  •  What does your child already know? Start by asking what your child/teen already has heard about the events from the media and from friends. Listen carefully; try to figure out what he or she knows or believes. As your child explains, listen for misinformation, misconceptions, and underlying fears or concerns. Understand that this information will change as more facts about the shooting are known.  

  • Gently correct inaccurate information. If your child/teen has inaccurate information or misconceptions, take time to provide the correct information in simple, clear, ageappropriate language.  

  • Encourage your child to ask questions, and answer those questions directly. Your child/teen may have some difficult questions about the incident. For example, she may ask if it is possible that it could happen at your workplace; she is probably really asking whether it is “likely.” The concern about re-occurrence will be an issue for caregivers and children/teens alike. While it is important to discuss the likelihood of this risk, she is also asking if she is safe. This may be a time to review plans your family has for keeping safe in the event of any crisis situation. Do give any information you have on the help and support the victims and their families are receiving. Like adults, children/teens are better able to cope with a difficult situation when they have the facts about it. Having question-and-answer talks gives your child ongoing support as he or she begins to cope with the range of emotions stirred up by this tragedy. 

  • Limit media exposure. Limit your child’s exposure to media images and sounds of the shooting, and do not allow your very young children to see or hear any TV/radio shootingrelated messages.  Even if they appear to be engrossed in play, children often are aware of what you are watching on TV or listening to on the radio. What may not be upsetting to an adult may be very upsetting and confusing for a child. Limit your own exposure as well. Adults may become more distressed with nonstop exposure to media coverage of this shooting.

  • Common reactions. Children/Teens may have reactions to this tragedy. In the immediate aftermath of the shooting, they may have more problems paying attention and concentrating. They may become more irritable or defiant. Children and even teens may have trouble separating from caregivers, wanting to stay at home or close by them. It’s common for young people to feel anxious about what has happened, what may happen in the future, and how it will impact their lives. Children/Teens may think about this event, even when they try not to. Their sleep and appetite routines may change. In general, you should see these reactions lessen within a few weeks.

  • Be a positive role model. Consider sharing your feelings about the events with your child/teen, but at a level they can understand. You may express sadness and empathy for the victims and their families. You may share some worry, but it is important to also share ideas for coping with difficult situations like this tragedy. When you speak of the quick response by law enforcement and medical personnel to help the victims (and the heroic or generous efforts of ordinary citizens), you help your child/teen see that there can be good, even in the mist of such a horrific event.  

  • Be patient. In times of stress, children/teens may have trouble with their behavior, concentration, and attention. While they may not openly ask for your guidance or support, they will want it. Adolescents who are seeking increased independence may have difficulty expressing their needs. Both children and teens will need a little extra patience, care, and love. (Be patient with yourself, too!). 

  • Extra help. Should reactions continue or at any point interfere with your children’s/teens’ abilities to function or if you are worried, contact local mental health professionals who have expertise in trauma. Contact your family physician, pediatrician, or state mental health associations for referrals to such experts.  

Parent Satisfaction Survey


Parents/Guardians, I am requesting your assistance as I seek to evaluate and improve my school counseling services. Your opinion is very important, and will help me to adjust my program according to the needs of my families. Would you please take a few minutes to complete the survey at THIS LINK. If you have any trouble opening the survey, please email me to let me know. 

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ACES and Youth Mental Health First Aid

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ACEs are Adverse Childhood Experiences, traumatic events that occur before the age of 18. There is a significant relationship between a high ACEs score and  a number of negative outcomes that can impact a person's life. THIS SITE offers tons of information about ACEs, and why it's important for you to know about them. 

Youth Mental Health First Aid teaches parents, family members, caregivers, teachers, school staff, peers, neighbors...and other caring citizens how to help an adolescent (age 12-18) who is experiencing a mental health or addictions challenge or is in crisis. Youth Mental Health First Aid is primarily designed for adults who regularly interact with young people. Course participants learn about common mental health challenges for youth, adolescent development, and a 5-step action plan for how to help young people in both crisis and non-crisis situations. Topics covered include anxiety, depression, substance use, disorders in which psychosis may occur, disruptive behavior disorders (including AD/HD), and eating disorders.

"None of us wants our kids to go through difficulty. Our natural instinct as parents is to cushion our children from pain and keep them from hardship. But our kids won’t escape adversity in life, so they need resilience in order to endure it. Resilience is the ability to respond well to difficulty, pain, and stress. But it isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you develop."

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"Drinking alcohol undoubtedly is a part of American culture, as are conversations between parents and children about its risks. Alcohol affects people differently at different stages of life—for children and adolescents, alcohol can interfere with normal brain development. Alcohol’s differing effects and parents’ changing role in their children’s lives as they mature and seek greater independence can make talking about alcohol a challenge. Parents may have trouble setting concrete family policies for alcohol use. And they may find it difficult to communicate with children and adolescents about alcohol-related issues". Learn more from THIS ARTICLE . And click on the link above for resources and a guide to helping your kids say "no" to underage drinking and the risks it poses.

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If you have a high school junior who is planning to attend a 2 or 4-year college, you will want to check out this Parent Action Plan from the College Board. BigFuture is designed to help take some of the stress out of the college and career planning process for parents and students. The site features an action plan and timeline for parents of students in grades 9 - 12. Click on the link above if you have an 11th grader, and if you have students in other grades, you can use this link to navigate to the "For Parents" page on BigFuture.