Parenting teenage boys is often a balance between wanting to push them to succeed and knowing you should probably back off. We try not to be helicopter parents, but we also know that our teenagers probably need some of our guidance, and maybe a nudge or two, in order to become successful adults. So how can we, as parents, help our teenagers by setting them up for becoming high achievers in adulthood? Click on THIS LINK to read the full article.
KEY POINTS from the article:
Teenagers can take a cue from the four core elements that can help adults succeed.
Teenage boys' motivation will be stronger if it comes from within and if they are taught how to persevere despite obstacles.
High achievers understand how important it is to never stop learning and continuously work on their personal growth.
Parents can play a vital role in helping teens succeed in school by being informed and lending a little support and guidance. Even though teens are seeking independence, parental involvement is an important ingredient for academic success.
Here are 10 ways to keep your teen on track to succeed in high school.
ACES and Youth Mental Health First Aid
ACEs are Adverse Childhood Experiences, traumatic events that occur before the age of 18. There is a significant relationship between a high ACEs score and a number of negative outcomes that can impact a person's life. THIS SITE offers tons of information about ACEs, and why it's important for you to know about them.
Youth Mental Health First Aid teaches parents, family members, caregivers, teachers, school staff, peers, neighbors...and other caring citizens how to help an adolescent (age 12-18) who is experiencing a mental health or addictions challenge or is in crisis. Youth Mental Health First Aid is primarily designed for adults who regularly interact with young people. Course participants learn about common mental health challenges for youth, adolescent development, and a 5-step action plan for how to help young people in both crisis and non-crisis situations. Topics covered include anxiety, depression, substance use, disorders in which psychosis may occur, disruptive behavior disorders (including AD/HD), and eating disorders.
"None of us wants our kids to go through difficulty. Our natural instinct as parents is to cushion our children from pain and keep them from hardship. But our kids won’t escape adversity in life, so they need resilience in order to endure it. Resilience is the ability to respond well to difficulty, pain, and stress. But it isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you develop."
"Drinking alcohol undoubtedly is a part of American culture, as are conversations between parents and children about its risks. Alcohol affects people differently at different stages of life—for children and adolescents, alcohol can interfere with normal brain development. Alcohol’s differing effects and parents’ changing role in their children’s lives as they mature and seek greater independence can make talking about alcohol a challenge. Parents may have trouble setting concrete family policies for alcohol use. And they may find it difficult to communicate with children and adolescents about alcohol-related issues". Learn more from THIS ARTICLE . And click on the link above for resources and a guide to helping your kids say "no" to underage drinking and the risks it poses.
If you have a high school junior who is planning to attend a 2 or 4-year college, you will want to check out this Parent Action Plan from the College Board. BigFuture is designed to help take some of the stress out of the college and career planning process for parents and students. The site features an action plan and timeline for parents of students in grades 9 - 12. Click on the link above if you have an 11th grader, and if you have students in other grades, you can use this link to navigate to the "For Parents" page on BigFuture.